The Meaning of Marriage

Here are some nuggets that I mined recently while re-reading Tim Keller’s book, The Meaning of Marriage. 

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Here are the quotes…

“When Jesus Christ went to the cross, he was simply acting in character.” p. 59

“Paradoxically… if we try to put our own happiness ahead of obedience to God, we violate our own nature and become, ultiamtely, miserable.” p. 59

“When the Bible speaks of love, it measures it primarily not by how much you want to receive but by how much you are willing to give to someone.” p. 78

“To say, ‘I don’t need a pice of paper [the covenant promise reflected by a marriage certificate] to love you’ is basically to say, ‘My love for you has not reached the marrige level (yet).” p. 78

“Emotions can’t be commanded, only actions.” This is why Paul commands husbands to “love their wives.” p. 103

“What Adam in the garden needed was not just a sexual partner but a companion… (so) screen first for friendship.”  pp. 125-26

“Marriage brings out the worst in you.” p. 139 (which is why it is such a significant opportunity to experience and extend grace)

“Most marriages start with an in-love ‘high’… But eventually that high wears off and then love must become a deliberate choice.” p. 156

“One of the most basic skills in marriage is the ability to tell the straight, unvarnished truth about what your spouse has done—and then, completely, unself-righteously, and joyously express forgiveness without a shred of superiority, without making the other person feel small.” p. 165

“I see your sin, but I can cover it with forgiveness, because Jesus saw my sin and covered it.” p. 168